The Truth about Media and Positive Role Models

Word of mouth is infectious. It can take over an entire city, state, and even a whole county. It gets into all those nooks and crannies and stays there lingering, just waiting to pounce at the right moment. One negative comment can spread like wildfire, while the positive ones seem to creep along at a snails pace. It’s all human nature. We are drawn to stare compulsively at a terrible car crash, we are compelled beyond our control to gossip about what other people wear, or eat. We just can’t help it; we all love a good train wreck, cake wreck, videos of pretty models falling down, right?

Part of my goal with my blog is to stay positive and spread  happiness and good energy back into the world.  Everyone can use a positive and kind word, not just sometimes, but all the time. Repclae that negative comment about that poor girl’s outfit, with something like, “You have a beautiful smile” or  “I love the color of you hair”. If you really look deep, you can find something wonderful about every person. It’s our own inner demons and lack of self confidence that make us get defensive and downright mean. How much better do you really feel when you make someone else feel awful?  I GUARANTEE that the more positive you are and the more you compliment people, you will start to change the way you see yourself and you will become happier and more self confident as well.

What’s happening to our younger generations is abominable. Girls as young as 8, 9 and 10 already have body image issues. They already see every flaw on their body.  “My thighs are jiggly”, “My stomach sticks out”, or “My face is too chubby” are things I have personally heard 4th and 5th graders say. Why are we obsessed with what the media tells us is perfect? No one is perfect. I repeat: NO ONE IS PERFECT. I have learned a lot over the years, especially doing live theatre. I have seen time after time, a thin, beautiful, talented woman get cast in the part I wanted, only to have them gripe about how imperfect they are. They have cellulite, their stomach isn’t flat, their chest is too small, etc. etc. Why are we so hard on ourselves?

We should be taught to appreciate things about out bodies and ourselves. We should be teaching our children that they are beautiful just the way they are. They are growing and changing, and they shouldn’t worry so much about it. Imagine a world where every child went to “Self Confidence Class” where the homework is too draw a self portrait and list their 3 favorite things about their face. Or the lesson in class would be to partner up and spend the next 15 minutes telling the other person everything that is awesome about them. I know I am living in a fantasy world, but that fantasy could become a reality if we all started banding together and started to change they way we see what “pretty” is.

So let’s start with the bad. Here are some great videos on what’s going on out there in the media. You may have already watched one or more of these, but I urge you to watch again, and if you have children, please talk to them and show them that ads, movies, videos, magazines are just as fake and unreal as cartoons, talking dinosaurs, and green grouchy monsters.

  1.  Killing Us Softly 3
  2.  Killing Us Softly 4
  3. The Photoshop Effect
  4. Standard of Beauty
  5. 5 Minute Retouch
  6. Dove Evolution
  7. Bad News

It is our job as parents to make sure they know what’s real and what’s not. So let us move on to positive things and media that we can show our children.  Certain celebrities and models are taking a stand against extreme photoshopping while many are rejecting any kind of photoshop. Let’s hope the trend keeps growing. One website that is making itself known is A Mighty Girl.


Let me start by saying this website completely ROCKS. You can also find them on Facebook, click the “like” button, and you will be treated to many amazing, uplifting, and real honest to good role models and stories for you and your daughter.  They carry books, dress up, toys, games, movies, clothing, music and more.  They give a nice description and share many details about the items and the author, recommended ages, etc. There’s even a link to purchase items on Amazon, but still support them. They have easy filters to narrow down your search by ages, or topic.  Heck, there’s a ton of historical books that I would jut LOVE to sink my teeth into.

I feel that even though this is a girl power kind of website, I think it’s very important to also share aspects of these things with the boys. We need to teach them to respect women from an early age, or our girls will continue to battle throughout their lives and future generations. The key is equality for everyone; no matter who you are, where you come from, how much money you have, or what kind of clothes you wear, color of your hair, or if you wear glasses or freckles. Everyone should be treated with respect. Teach your kids to be whoever they want to be.

Here are some points of interest.

::: BOOKS :::

They have everything from independent-minded princesses, to historical figures, environmental, social issue, personal development, civil rights, heros, and so much more. There is really something for everyone. My list of favorites is in the hundreds, and hard to choose just a few, but once you start looking it will be hard to stop.

:: TOYS :::

Who says boys are the only ones who can build or get dirty or like bugs? And who says girls should always be a damsel in distress, a princess locked in a tower and play house. Here you will find a huge assortment of toys and game for all ages – babies to adults! It’s refreshing to see some of the toys are NOT pink and purple and just any color. Not all girls like pink, my daughter hated pink until she was older.

::: CLOTHING :::

So instead of your daughter wearing a shirt that says something like  “School is Boring” or “Math is too hard” why not try one of these refreshingly awesome t-shirts!


kind-shirt math-girls pi-shirt saves-self scientist1 strong